On my morning exercise with my friends I met with an elderly woman. Though we have seen each other a couple of times and exchanged smiles, she took the effort to come and say hello to all of us.
She comes across as a very confident person and during the course of our conversation, she distinctively mentioned with teary eyes , that it is very important for all of us to stand up for ourselves . Long story short, she is 75 years young and at this milestone of life she is still seeks an approval for her decisions from her family. Even a decision to meet her 98 year old ailing mother.
It seemed that her ability to take a stand for herself was gone ….or was it never there?
This actually made me ponder “What stops us from taking a stand for ourselves”?
• What are we really scared of?
• What do we fear?
• What hold us back?
• Why do we give the power away?
Sometime we are so vary of the consequences of saying No, that we don’t really say it , other times we may have a threat of losing a friend, a spouse or relationship …and if they are the only ones we are holding on to …we may actually be more frightened than otherwise. If we believe we are doing it to maintain a relationship, then are we really true to that relationship …and any relationship with inner imbalance can’t do too well can it ? So our primary purpose is defeated.
And in turn what we are doing is that we are suffocating ourselves, inviting others to emotionally damage us! The larger question each one of us needs to answer is that if we are happy in the state we are in today . If not …what do we need to do differently?
One can continue to blame others for the state one is in, but tell me if we don’t love ourselves enough to take care of our self , how we can expect anyone else to do it. If we believe that we will not be able to, write that book , make contributions to the world, start a new venture, create a wonderful relationship, follow our heart, take a break ,take a risk, and stand firm to what we really desire , then how can anyone possibly do it for you ? Do we even believe that we actually have the power to change our chosen response to a situation? Do we have faith in the steps we can take? Do we trust the larger universe?
It’s not always about taking a drastic step, it’s about first recognizing what you want , believing that you can get it and then following it …with your heart and soul.
As Dr. Covey Says” If you know where you want to go , your chances of getting there are higher !
Speaking up and Standing up is a skill we can acquire with practice and time!
Take charge! Love Yourself! Take care of yourself! Believe in this magnificent creation of God- YOU ! Is there really a right time to stand upright to do things we want to do….Well there is never a wrong time to do the right thing. NOW is the moment to be the change!
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